(July 23rd to August 22nd)
1. Develop some more humility by taking a class in a subject you know nothing about but have always been fascinated by.
2. Get to know a coworker who you’ve never spent much time talking to in the past. Ask them questions, remember things about their family and friends, and work on being someone who listens and remembers things about people – it’s one of the most meaningful things in the world.
3. Be generous with yourself sometimes too – you’re always doing thoughtful things for other people, but it’s okay to sometimes take a break and do something nice for yourself – a spa day, a quiet evening at home, a delicious meal at a restaurant, whatever makes you happy and relaxed.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
1. Stop looking at your phone before bed. Just STOP. Half an hour before bed, put your phone somewhere where you can’t easily reach over to it.
2. Find three more long-term things that will make you feel better or happier or more relaxed instead of always going to short term stuff like alcohol and food and shopping and anything else of that nature. Things like alcohol and food and exciting purchases are perfectly wonderful in moderation, but you need to find 3 long-term solutions that will help you with your anxiety – such as yoga, walking, therapy, healthier eating/cooking, exercise classes, self-help books – WHATEVER HELPS.
3. Put more energy into the friends who show up for you and support you and make you happy, instead of dividing your time and energy between the friends that deserve you and the friends that don’t.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
1. Do not look at your phone when you’re with your friends. As in, if you need to check it every once in a while, fine. But when you’re at a restaurant or you’re having a drink together or you’re just having a fun time hanging out at one of your places, put it on silent and put it in your bag and stop looking at it.
2. Stop waffling on decisions. You can take some time on things if you need to, but every important decision you make needs to happen with a firm ‘yes’ or ‘no’ instead of you just passively sliding into it.
3. Absorb more content in your life that helps you form decisions and opinions on your own – make an effort to read the news every day (even 5-10 minutes is great), read more books, watch documentaries, go to lectures, watch lectures online, read articles from reputable publications. Bring more content into your life that helps you learn and figure out how you feel about things, instead of just unintentionally taking on the opinions of your parents or friends.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
1. Do a real, intimidating, and honest deep dive into why you struggle with jealousy and secrecy. Do this in whatever way you think will help you most: self-help books, online seminars or lectures, therapy, talking to loved ones. Whatever is going to help you figure out why you struggle with needing to control things and keep things from others.
2. Spend less time on social media. No one is telling you to quit cold turkey, but spend less time, even if that means you are on it ten less minutes per day in the beginning and you work your way up from there. That is how it will seem manageable and doable long-term.
3. Find a very specific hobby that is completely unrelated to whatever you do at work, and make time for it at least once a week.