(March 21st to April 19th)
1. Focus on problems in your life right now that need addressing, instead of putting a band-aid on these things and then focusing on outside stimuli (like travel or work) that you use to try to distract yourself.
2. Learn how to meditate. No one needs to learn how to meditate, and how to sit still, and how to live in the moment more than you.
3. Do one very small, but very nice, thing every day for someone else. This will help to remind you how much is going on in the world outside of your bubble.
(April 20th to May 21st)
1. Listen more than you talk.
2. Accept that you can’t control other people’s feelings – only your own.
3. Find more things that make you happy that you don’t need to depend on anyone else for – like exercising, or taking a class, or reading one book every month. This will remind you that loved ones are the most important thing, but you still need to find fulfillment on your own, too.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
1. When you feel yourself getting upset, start addressing your feelings instead of burying them and avoiding them. You can address them through writing, or talking to your best friend, or therapy – whichever (healthy) way you want to do it is the right way to do it.
2. Work on small ways you can be a better friend, and try a new thing every month. The key is doing small things, like texting someone that you’re thinking about them, or calling a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time, or sending an actual card to someone. When you try starting with smaller things, it seems way less intimidating and way more maintainable.
3. Show up to every single thing you commit to – work things, social things, personal enrichment things. Go to every single thing you say yes to (unless you are sick or really need a mental or emotional break), and use this year to become the person who’s dependable and never flakes.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
1. Work on your ability to forgive. This doesn’t just have to mean actually forgiving someone to their face every single time – sometimes it’s just as helpful and important to forgive someone internally and let go of the anger you feel, for your own benefit and happiness.
2. Find a physical activity that lets you blow off steam and commit to it once a week. It can be a slower-paced physical activity like yoga or something as intense as rock climbing or anything in between.
3. Try something that lets you make friends outside of your solidified comfort zone of familiar people – an exercise class, a church group, a Meetup group, whatever. It’s time that you give yourself a chance to branch out and meet people who are different than you.