(March 21st to April 19th)
Because you looked at love as something that would only hold you back.
Instead of looking at love as something that adds to your life, you only saw it as something that would stifle you or disrupt you from living the life you want to live. You still haven’t allowed yourself to believe that – with the right person – love is actually something that lifts you up, supports you, encourages you, and even carries you when you’re struggling. On the contrary, you’re convinced that falling in love means you have to give up your adventurous and exciting lifestyle, when in reality, love only makes everything more exciting when you’ve found the right person for yourself.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because you wanted love to follow one, controllable, predictable formula – even though it never, ever does.
Even though you’re a sincerely loving and warm person, you yourself have struggled to fall in love – but only because you’ve wanted to control every aspect of how it happens and how it pans out. Because of your need for security and serenity, you have had (and still have) a hard time accepting the fact that love is crazy, unpredictable, and all over the place. Instead of giving into the process and enjoying the thrill of it all once you know you’ve found the right person, you can’t get around your need to control the process and plan it out yourself. The reason you didn’t fall in love in 2017 is because you wanted to write the story ahead of time, instead of coming to terms with the fact that love is a spontaneous, ever-changing story that involves two very different and independent minds.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because you aren’t letting yourself believe that you deserve a true, genuine, and happiness-inducing connection with another person.
As fun and seemingly carefree as you appear to be, you are actually incredibly hard on yourself. You won’t give yourself permission to let someone into your life, even if you can tell that they’re the type of person you could actually be yourself around. While you’re great at ‘going with the flow’ and always embracing the fun of situations, you haven’t yet learned how to be truly vulnerable with another person.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because you let the little things get to you.
When it comes to love, you are admirably open and tender. Your problem is that you let yourself get upset by small things that, while relatively harmless in and of themselves, end up causing your relationships harm because of your reactions to them. It’s very important that you have standards and that you remember you are deserving of someone great – that should never change. But you need to work on being understanding of your significant other’s flaws, and of the fact that they might possibly emote differently than you, and that not everyone will be sensitive of the same things you will be sensitive about. If your partner is a few minutes late to dinner, or if they have trouble expressing their feelings easily on the first try, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. It’s just something they’re still working on. When you learn to not waste energy on the little things, you’ll be a lot happier in love.